Photo: Senior living advisor Lin Imamura Hammer
LOS ANGELES—Recent statistics paint a bleak picture of the challenges facing family caregivers, particularly in the Japanese American (JA) community, the nation’s fastest-growing older population. The often-inevitable decision of when, where and if to place an aging parent into a care facility is compounded by financial issues and cultural mores.
According to the 2010 United States Census, one in five JAs is over age 65 (21.5 percent), compared to the general population (13 percent). As reported previously, Sansei baby boomers have become
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Residential Care Home(RCH) - A person who does not have cognitive issues but has significant mobility problems may prefer an RCH, where there are generally only six residents in a large home. Getting to the dining area may only be a few steps versus long hallways. .”
Some facilities are “continuum of care communities” capable of accommodating residents with a continuation of services as residents’ needs change, ranging from independent single apartments to assisted living to skilled nursing care.”
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Increasingly, Sansei in midlife are confronted with their parents’ depleting resources and the prospect of leveraging their own retirement.
“It can be difficult for a family to deal with,” explains senior living advisor Lin Imamura Hammer. “Care needs can run well beyond the abilities and resources of family caregivers, yet they face the added pressure of cultural expectations that presume families will take care of their own forever.”
Two Key Issues for Families
Hammer, a Yonsei (fourth-generation JA) has worked for A Place for Mom, a private referral service, for the past three years.
According to Hammer, two key issues have emerged in her efforts to help families find eldercare solutions: “The first is the growing number of seniors with dementia, Alzheimer’s or other diseases that affect memory. I speak to many families facing this, and it’s not only heartbreaking for families to watch their loved ones slip away, it’s stressful for everyone involved with their care.”
Often the elder is physically fit, Hammer points out, but the mind is slowly fading: “Wandering, agitation and the loss of the ability to perform basic tasks can happen over time or quickly--and can require having someone with them 24/7.”
She continued, “The second issue is financial. As people are living longer, many are outliving their retirement and don’t have the money to cover the cost of their care when they can no longer live alone. Many adult children are finding themselves dipping into their own retirement savings to help cover the costs of caring for their parents – whether that’s to cover in-home care services or an assisted living community.”
Hammer noted that there are many things to consider when choosing a place for a loved one, including an assessment of the person’s needs and preferences to determine what environment may be best.
“For example, a person who may not have memory issues, but has significant mobility problems may be a better candidate for a residential care home (RCH), where there are generally only six people in a large home and there is less square footage to navigate. To get to the dining area may be a matter of a few steps versus long hallways. Many of the RCH administrators are very accommodating and will often try to have culturally diverse menus as well,” Hammer stated.
On the other hand, she went on, “if a person has memory issues and is prone to wandering, a secure environment with relevant memory therapy programs will be required.”
Hammer suggested that families consider social tendencies and hobbies: “If Mom or Dad is an avid gardener, I [would] look for a place that has a garden area for residents. Or maybe mahjong is their passion. I would inquire to see if there are other players so Mom or Dad can join the group.”
“Their Faces Lit Up”
Her first glimpse into the world of eldercare occurred at age 14. As part of a community involvement project, her youth group visited residents of a well-known Japanese American nursing facility. “Their faces would light up when we visited,” she recalls.
Born and raised in Los Angeles, Hammer moved to San Diego after she married and now lives in Encino. Her mother and father are from Maui and Oahu, respectively.
“As a Yonsei, I know the cultural dilemma many of us face,” said the mother of two. Her grandmother lived alone [in Hawaii] for a long time. “She was 95 when she fell and broke her hip. I didn’t have the knowledge I have now. I couldn’t be of help to my mom,” Hammer remembers.
Today, she has successfully placed dozens of individuals. One particularly memorable case involved a man who was “wheelchair-bound and miserable.” Hammer referred the man to a benefit coach, who helped him obtain approval for veteran’s benefits he didn’t know he had. “His first check was $11,000,” she recalled.
Hammer said that families generally want the best for their parent. They want them to be comfortable. “But sometimes what the [adult] child wants is to feel better themselves,” she observes.
“The most important thing,” she recommends, “is going out and visiting places to see first-hand what is offered and really get a feel for the atmosphere and other residents.”
Ellen Endo wrote this article for Rafu Shimpo through the MetLife Foundation Journalists in Aging Fellows Program, a project of New America Media and the Gerontological Society of America.